Porn and sex

कल    एक   assignment   के सिलसिले  में  porn   videos  पर research कर  रही थी |    

pornographic website   पर front  page पर जो titles   थे  उसके कुछ  eg  -

- neighbors  hot black wife is whore 

-this is what  mom loves  in the kitchen 

- five  forcing  school girl 

-  boy fucking girl friends mom '

- the  girl is crying in pain 

Not one or two . thousands of names on many websites .

Is this how we talk to each other ? Is this how we talk as humans ?

And remember  Porn are not just talk , They are actions .

Something that a man does to a woman in real world ??

Real men hurt women in real life ?? 

Actually Porn is not about sex,  not about erotica , not about communicating  sex 

Really speaking it is about male domination of women  , subordiance of women not only as sexual practice but as a way of being , as a gender hierarchy

when i interviewed  some males they said ' Porn defines sex.

How porn define something as sexual ? 

Is is arousing for males to choke women ? To have brutal sex without a touch , hug or caress .

Porn r always in these categories ;

-Rape category
-Humiliation category 

-Abuse category

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Porn has addictive and paralyzing effect 

Porn is teaching that value of sex lies in big penis. And pornography never ever teaches that Valuable sexual partner  means sensual , attentive . generous , well  

 co-ordinated

It is all about large penis and eternal sunshine 

It teaches us aggression when actually emotions are involved and result is we are surrounded by so much pornification today that children are playing rape games and have horribly decreased empathy for rape , couples are not sexually happy and women are forced into unwanted sex . 

And when porn is available on your children s mobile for free , we are still  believing that talking about sex  with parents is not our culture ?? still we are saying it shouldnt be taught in school because it is not our culture ? 

The only thing which can save us is healthy communication on sex with our children .. on table in family time ..where children can understand about sex with a complete understanding of sexual freedom, keeping subordinance and gendered hierarchy aside.

where our children know the meaning of friend zone , molestation , abuse and rape . where they can know the importance of consent ..  when No is No ..  

let us take the sex on our dining table , in our day to day communication , without funny jokes. Let we all talk because silence breeds silence and communication breeds communication 

lets talk and lets enjoy  इश्क वाला sex

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