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1. Real sex is way different than what’s shown in porn: Real sex is not 3 hour long, full of toys and other products,
anal (very few people actually prefer it in real life), there are no 16 or 20
inch long penises, not everyone’s bodies are perfect (in fact, most people have
some or the other differences if we compare the kind of models and actors shown
in porn videos), and no, not everyone is really into BDSM and other rather
unnatural sexual practices. Real sex is slow, ends quickly, and at times
not really as amazing as one might expect. But hey, don’t fret. It is
still quite an interesting experience. The little imperfections and lack of
knowledge can be played around with and you can have a great experience. The
only thing is- get the right kind of knowledge from the right sources.
2. Porn is majorly patriarchal in nature: Have you ever wondered why the majority of porn categories and
videos are all about objectifying the females? There are videos of the women
being physically abused, manhandled, slapped, urinated on, and even raped in
the most horrific and graphic manner possible. And people consume such content
to satisfy their personal needs. While the males shown in the porn videos are
often shown muscular and powerful, and dominant in most videos. How can an act
as beautiful and delicate as sex be so gruesome? Doesn’t make sense, right? By
consuming such content, we are disempowering and disregarding all the women in
our lives, and this is quite dangerous.
3. Is sex a product to be commercialised: Sex is a beautiful and a very delicate act. By making films and
videos on sex, the industry has commercialised the act and hence, it has lost
its value as a natural desire and need of humans, and has become a product of
consumption through the digital media. Also, why would someone want to watch
someone else perform the act in the first place? It is meant to be a very
private affair between the two consenting adults.
4. It can heighten your expectations unnecessarily: Porn shows a lot of things which are unrealistic, fake and
augmented to give a rather overwhelming experience to the viewer. Thus, if you
base your sex expectations on porn, there are high chances that you may end up
being dissatisfied, underconfident and unhappy. Think about it- No one really
lasts for 1-2 hours during an intercourse. Also, women do not want you to
ejaculate on their bodies. Many of them are disgusted by it. And there are many
other such issues which are harmful to you as a consumer.
5. You may not be able to achieve orgasms: As scary as it may sound, it is indeed true. If you watch too
much porn and set expectations according to what you watch, chances are that
you are an addict. Yes, porn addiction is absolutely real. The more porn you
consume, the harder it becomes to achieve climax, and the tougher it is to
stimulate the next time around. Same is the relationship between women and
vibrators. Hence it is extremely important that you quit watching porn and have
realistic expectations about sex and also discuss the same with your partner.
6. It is disrespectful to your partner: Porn based expectations can often be harsh, far-fetched and miles
away from the truth. The acts in those videos are not natural, often strongly
depicted, and over dramatised to give it the required effect. Hence, if you
expect your partner to behave and act in a particular manner or follow your
lead against their comfort, it can be a scarring experience for them and your
sex life might be hampered in a big way. Instead, watch the right educational
videos, read books, articles online, or talk to a doctor or a well-read person
to help you understand the concept well.
7. It is ‘NOT’ at all normal: Sitting and watching porn, where two
other people are having sex is not normal in any way. As we discussed above,
sex is a very private affair, and we should respect the privacy and boundaries
of ourselves and our partners.
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