Yes , I am a whore .

They said  --'Take easy "
They said  -'calm down'
They said - 'Stop Talking '
They said -'Sit down '
They said -'Bow your head '
They said-'Keep on crying .Let the tears roll '

What you should do in response ???

I stood up .
Stood  right up .\
Held my back straight
Held my head high
I spoke  my mind .
Spoke loudly .

I screamed

I screamed  so loudly 

So they had to run for cover .
They said , 'You are shameless , why dont you die ??"

When I heard that '' I laughed !
They said ' You have loose character '
When I heard that
" I laughed louder '
Hearing  my laughter . they shouted   even more loudly  .
They said ' You are a whore '

When they said that
' I Just put my hands on my hips
stood and firmly said


' YES ,yes  I AM A WHORE .'
" YES  yes . I AM A WHORE '




They were shocked 
They stared in disbelief' '
They waited to say ,much more 
much more .

Men amongst them turned red and sweat

 And women amongdt them dreamt to be a whore like me 

   
                                                              (little change from tasleema nasreen's poem)

What is gender ???

                                              'WHAT   is  GENDER "

MEN AND WOMEN are different biologically  They play diffrent  roles into reproducing the human species . Building on their bilogical  differences  every  culture has evolved  roles , traits and forms of behaviour which are thought to be typical of men and women .Some forms of behaviour are thought to be feminine , and others masculine . Similarly some task considered to be suitable for men and some for women .

These roles and  traits  are not necesseralily  handed down to men and women by their biology .Quite a lot of it is the creation of  society Gender is part biology and part society (Social construction)  Men and women are therefore  playing out two sets of realities .

1)     There biolology , the way they are born ,whether its man or woman

2)     The baggage given to them by society –What society thinks they ought to be as men or woman .

 For example , the fact of bearing child  sets women biologically apart from men .Culture has used this biological fact to assign primacy to women’s role as mother and wife and by extension her other roles in the domestic sphere,

GENDER   RELATIONS    SELECTIVELY    HIGHLIGHT     THE BIOLOGICAL      DIFFERENCES      BETWEEN     MEN AND WOMEN WHILE     BRUSHING    ASIDE    THE   SIMILARITIES    UNDER    CARPET

These messages of men and women –what they are and they should be –are deeply rooted in the minds of individuals and collectivity that we call society .

Symbols, Myths, legends ,language, proverbs. Folklore and rituals are other powerful agents that condition  our mind.

Finally ,the routine performance of different tasks itself results in men and women developing different personal qualities , Although men and women  many similarities the  ‘social construction had over emphasis the

   Differences .